Healthy Positivity

Managing Your Own Thoughts and Feelings

The simple description of thinking positive is to err on the side of optimism. But I’d like to dive a little deeper into the complexities of healthy positivity. When I say think positive, I mean managing your emotions so you live on the higher frequency side of all the emotions.

You’ll still feel all the emotions. You get to own them, identify them, communicate them. And the faster and more effective you process through despair, sadness, anger, resentment, frustration, and the like; the more time you can spend with more pleasant emotions, like acceptance, confidence, joy, peace and love.

Sitting with emotions below the neutral frequency zone (emotional frequencies as described in Power vs. Force; https://images.app.goo.gl/WPZtm1sLyQfWhWNA9) for too long can lead them to fester and create more problems. For a happy life a goal can be to spend only as much time as needed with those emotions to process them and learn about yourself from them; not to suppress them, but to release them, like taking an emotional dump.

No emotions are bad; it’s what you do with them that counts. Often when we have interactions with someone, emotions that are already in us are awakened. Rather than saying someone made us feel a certain way, we can say, thank you for waking up that feeling in me so I can heal and take care of this emotion.

To release them, all you really need to do in general is live a healthy life; eat healthy, exercise, practice mindfulness, get the various types of therapy and medical interventions you may need. That in and of itself is a process, but once you arrange the supports you need and establish your routines, the lower frequency emotions will process naturally, with a moderate amount of attention and pleasure with the release.

Then you can spend most of your time living with the more pleasant emotions. You will still have ups and downs, but hopefully you’ll get to a point of feeling more like you’re surfing a wave rather than feeling like life is completely out of control. Every once in a while, you’ll wash out, getting salt in your eyes and a mouthful of sand, but for the most part you’ll be enjoying the ride.

Changing Your Brain Chemistry

In the moment you can do some immediate things  to shift your mood. This is great if you need a quick pivot–if you’re at work, or celebrating someone’s big day, or it’s not an ideal time for whatever other reason. You can put on a happy face. Alternatively allowing yourself anger can shift you out of despair to help through a painful moment, but continual anger is destructive. You can choose your primary emotion in any given moment.

But you must eventually deal with every emotion though. If you’ve ever watched What About Bob; you’ve seen a comical depiction of the very real notion that if you keep shoving your emotions down. Repressed emotions will eventually come out unintentionally in an explosive way. They can come out in other ways as well. Emotions not released can affect your overall physical and mental health.

You can literally change your brain chemistry and heal past trauma by practicing some of the following short term and long term strategies multiple times a day for a few months. Even when you’re feeling better, it will be helpful to continue some of these practices two to three times a day;

Quick Remedies For Managing Emotions In The Moment;

-Smile; smiling tells your brain you are happy and sends out the happy chemicals

-Call back a powerful pleasant memory

-Jumping Jacks or push ups

-Fast Paced Music

-2-5 minute motivational video

-Text a friend thank you for something they did for you in the past

-Caffeine

-Add 3 ideas of your own to quickly shift your mood.

Habits for managing emotions long term;

-Crying

-Journaling

-Mindful breathing

-Reasonable Exercise Routine

-Healthy social meetup

-Time in nature

-Creative movement

-Games that exercise planning, strategy, and/or reaction time

-CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy),

-Add your own ideas to healthy long term solutions for stress relief and emotional management.

Regularly practicing activities you choose from these lists, can heal damage done to your brain by trauma and/or compulsive habits.

The part of your brain that gets damaged by trauma and/or compulsive habits in large part determines your capacity for natural happiness.

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